What Does It Mean to be an Aspiring Wise Old Woman?

People often ask me what it means to be an aspiring wise old woman.

I think for most of us, the words “wise old woman” conjure up an image quicker than a description.

But it’s tough to aspire to a visual.

I have a feeling my definition is going to be a work in progress, but here’s a start:

A wise old woman worries about the right shit.

(For instance, if you’re bothered by the profanity in the last statement, you might be worrying about the wrong shit. 😂 But I could be wrong. Work in progress.)

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A wise old woman is confident.

She’s humble.

She makes decisions to the best of her ability; then lets them go.

She has a healthy relationship with both fear and failure.

She doesn’t rush.

She knows what she’s good at, and isn’t threatened by others’ skills or talents.

She loves well, she grieves well, and she apologizes well.

She takes accountability for her actions.

She’s content with just enough.

She laughs a lot.

She’s constantly surprised by the miracle of life around her, and rarely surprised by the pain and suffering.

Her primary career goal is to give the best of what she has without borrowing from her health to do it.

She makes time to be curious.

She acknowledges that all of life is a work in progress.

She values balance over wealth.

She gets angry at injustice, and she fights to protect the innocent.

She recognizes beauty when she sees it.

She sees that beauty in the mirror.

This is us.

We are that woman.

When I decided to lean into the aspiring wise old woman as a “brand” for my coaching practice, I was never trying to be the aspiring wise old woman. It was supposed to be all of us. It was supposed to be contagious.

What I’ve been working to conceptualize is the how.

How do we make this commitment to pursue this woman inside ourselves?

How do we build a community around these aspirations?

If we see all of life as a work in progress, I’m here to present a next step for us:

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The Aspiring Wise Old Woman Collective

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Here is what it looks like:

One day a week, you commit to growing into the woman you’d like to become. Your month looks like this:

Week 1: Meet 1:1 with me for individual coaching

Week 2: Meet virtually for group coaching with me and a consistent group of 4-6 women who are sharing this journey

Week 3: Meet virtually with those same women to discuss a book around an aspiring wise old woman topic

Week 4: Reserve time to be alone and do something creative or brave. Something that stretches you or fills your cup.

We will stay in touch with our small groups throughout the week, knowing that our partners and our coach are only a text away.

This monthly rhythm allows us to target specific areas to receive coaching in, develop meaningful relationships with other women who are tired of worrying about the wrong shit, and keep pushing the envelope of our bravery. We learn to be together and we learn to be alone. We value both as critically important.

We’re done with drama, we’re done with time sucks, we’re done with overthinking. We’re done second-guessing every decision we make. We’re done with mom guilt, “should”-ing ourselves, and shame cycles.

From now on, we’re going to learn how to be.

We’re going to be free.

If you want to join me on this journey, I’ll be piloting this group starting June 1, for free. There will be 6 spots in the free pilot. After the pilot, membership will be $150 per month.

If you’re a single mom, we need you, and there’s a ridiculously steep discount for you.

Are you one of the 6 that want to take this leap with me?

Are you a dude reading this who needs to forward this to his partner?

This journey won’t be for everyone. But for those of us who take it, I’m convinced it will be worth it.